Every heart that truly waits for beloved is great …..
It always breaks my heart when people say they broke up because they didn’t think they could handle the distance. Now, I know this has to be pretty relationship specific, but I don’t think that distance is any reason to end things. If you’re in a good relationship, then you’re with someone that you could see yourself married to one day, someone who is worth it. If you’re not, then you shouldn’t be together in the first place. I can’t promise you that it’ll work out for you if you do decide together, but I can say that you’ll never know if you don’t try.
I should probably add the disclaimer in that long-distance really sucks. It’s hard. It’s a lot of work. It hurts like a dull and constant ache in your chest almost every day. No amount of text messages, snapchats, phone calls, or facetimes feel like enough. There are a lot of tears and long nights involved. But, for us, we would rather endure that than not be together. We each feel like it’s worth it.
Most of the time, we only hear about the people who tried and failed at long-distance. It’s a rare occasion to meet someone who has actually been in a committed long-distance relationship for several years. There are some upsides to long-distance relationships though. For one, you get to really test how strong your relationship is. Nothing proves how much you’re willing to work for a relationship like being forced to work for a relationship. Also, you begin to really appreciate your time together.
Long-distance relationships often seem scary. They’re definitely considered to be negative by society in general. However, they’re not all destined to fail. Yes, they’re hard. Yes, they require a lot of work. I can say from firsthand experience that they’re still worth it. To all of you couples out there trying to decide whether or not to give long-distance a shot, I say “go for it!” You’ll never know how things would’ve turned out if you don’t try. It may be the harder choice, but it is certainly a rewarding one when all is said and done.
Lots of love and good luck.
